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Divorce Information Session

Focusing on divorce options, in-and-out of court.

These sessions are conducted by a family lawyer and provide a general overview of the areas of law that are relevant to separation and divorce, such as the different rights for married couples versus couples who are not married but live together, the law regarding spousal support, child support and support enforcement.

Our dedicated group recognizes that without knowledge – without first having legal information, on the effects of separation and divorce on adults and children; alternatives to litigation; family law issues; the family court system and local resources and programs, people are committed to a system that they never have wanted in the first place.

For full schedule & to register, please see below which locations are convenient.  

Pickering Library Central – monthly sessions ( check schedule)

Downtown Oshawa – one Wednesday per month at 6:30PM BY REGISTRATION ONLY

“…adversarial family law system “appeared to encourage couples to become adversaries to a greater degree than they already are….to aggravate relations with the spouse…and to upset and humiliate people” (pp.214-215).” (Ellis, 2014)

Affordable Family Mediation

Family & Divorce Mediation 

Serving Durham, GTA and Peel Region

FMRC provides free and sliding-fee scale family mediation to families experiencing divorce or separation. We provide help with all of your matters, including financials, parenting plans and Separation Agreements (if needed).

Research clearly shows that going to court is committing to an adversarial and conflict ridden process; not to mention, lengthy and costly! We will help you stay out of court and keep control over decisions regarding your family.

What is family mediation?

Family Mediation is a voluntary process where a trained professional, called a mediator, helps participants to negotiate a mutually acceptable agreement.  A mediator, unlike a judge or arbitrator, will not make decisions for you. You and your partner decide what will happen for your family. The mediator will act as a facilitator and referee, to help guide you regarding personal decisions for your lives and those whom you love. The key is: You and your partner maintain control over the outcome.

How does family mediation work?

Each party describes the dispute from his or her own point of view and offers possible solutions. The mediator helps the parties to focus on the real issues causing the problem and then helps them to find a workable solution(s). When the parties arrive at an agreement, the agreement is put in writing.

How do you begin the process?

Contact us to schedule an intake meeting. If you have a lawyer, ask him or her to connect with us.

Are there cases that should not be mediated?

Almost all problems can be resolved in family law mediation! You should however discuss with your lawyer or mediator about your specific circumstances.

How does divorce mediation help the couple emotionally?

Mediation supports the healing process; helps you focus on your future; eliminates aggressive bargaining and legal games; prioritizes the well-being of the children and addresses the parties’ needs and interests. You have a voice in the process.

So… Why choose Family Mediation?

It works. 80% family mediations end in agreement as the parties are motivated to find resolution.

It’s affordable. Parties generally agree to split the cost of a mediator. Mediated cases avoid costly litigation.

It’s quick. If everyone is committed, mediation results in settlement far quicker than waiting until near trial to settle.

It’s private. Almost everything disclosed during mediation is confidential and cannot be used in a lawsuit.

It’s impartial. Mediators have no stake in the outcome. Their role is to facilitate resolution of the family matters.

It’s cooperative, not adversarial. Family Mediation provides a comfortable, safe and respectful setting for discussion. It is no where as combative as court cases.

Let FMRC help you today!

Discovering Stories in Durham Region

The Family Mediation Resource Centre (FMRC) is proud to announce we have received an Ontario Arts Council (OAC) grant to deliver an Artists In the Community project entitled Discovering Stories in Durham.

Taking place between April and December 2017, Discovering Stories in Durham will be a series of free workshops open to the diverse communities in the Durham Region. This is an opportunity to collaborate with artists and other communities in Durham Region by telling your stories through art and performance. As a community project, we want to be as inclusive and accessible as possible.

In addition to building a sense of community, we believe that community arts projects can also stimulate social action by bringing attention to social issues in a way that can help evoke creative solutions for solving problems.

Using fun-filled games and exercises, along with music, movement and visual arts, ideas will be shared during the workshops.  With permission from the participants, we’ll save/record/keep track of your ideas to discover the most effective artistic discipline(s) for community members tell their stories in a possible public presentation in 2018.

If you are a Durham organization who wants to participate in this project, we would like to hear from you! Please email at durhamstories@fmrcentre.ca or call toll-free 877-297-3312

Benefit Concert

Shake off the winter blues at the legendary Horseshoe Tavern featuring two legendary Toronto Reggae bands, Fujahtive & Sattalites  and special guest, RaLion! RaLion was born in Melbourne Australia and raised in Toronto. RaLion grew up with a father from Melbourne, Australia and a mother from Kingston Ten, Jamaica, whose influence and musical tastes helped shape Lion’s deep seeded love of reggae. While his early musical influences came from listening to original roots, rock, reggae with his family, RaLion became ‘hooked’ when the “Talking Blues” (Bob Marley & The Wailers) CD came out. Burning Spear has also been a constant source of inspiration due to his use of horns.

Tickets are $15 advance online or $20 at the door in support of Family Mediation & Resource Centre (FMRC) , a one of a kind non-governmental organization in Ontario, who is helping families stay out of adversarial court Buy your tickets here (TITLE SPONSORSHIP HAS BEEN FILLED – Thank you Little Redstone!) Don’t forget you can also donate to our grass-roots movement! 

 

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Comprehensive Mediation Skills Certificate Training

THE FAMILY MEDIATION AND RESOURCE CENTRE PROUDLY INTRODUCES COMPREHENSIVE MEDIATION SKILLS CERTIFICATE TRAINING.

This is a proactive and preventative initiative born out of the recognition of the systemic barriers faced in our community members’ ability to access justice and our desire to sow the seeds of change. This Certificate of completion will qualify you for FMRC Roster!

WHY

Access to justice must be inclusive!
Access to justice must include the voices of our community members!
Access to justice must include multiple views of justice!
Access to justice must not create barriers in our community – it must deal with our diverse views, differences of opinions and relationships.

HOW DOES THE COMMUNITY BENEFIT?

A commitment to the pride, dignity and global understanding of the Durham Region community, the Comprehensive Mediation Skills Certificate Training will support and assist in many ways:

  •  Direct means and tools to assist in creating positive systemic and societal change
  •  Inclusive, innovative and creative approaches built upon the diverse nature of the community in terms of culture, language, individuality and difference
  • Access to community-based options in resolving issues that arise within the family, the neighbourhood, the community and the workplace
  • Recognition and development of strengths and capacities in resolution of issues as they arise both within their own relationships and in relationships between others
  • A foundational resource that community members can utilize for the betterment of their relationships

HOW CAN YOU HELP?

Invest in yourself, your relationships and your role in the community!

  • Register for the training today
  • Share and promote this unique training initiative with your peers and community members
  • Invest in a sponsorship role

For more information, to view the detailed flyer and register, head over to the training session information page.

This training is now sold out. To reserve a spot on the waiting list please email us. 

 

 

Legislative provisions related to marriage and divorce of persons with mental health problems a global review

In many cultures women will be expected to marry according to gender roles and gender role expectations. Combined with mental illness this may create double jeopardy against women with mental illness and discriminate against them further… Full article here: Legislative provisions related to marriage and divorce of persons with mental health problems a global review

You are a parent! Don’t try to replace the biological parent

Parenting

Parenting 102

It’s hard work, dedication, love and challenges and … kids aren’t even yet in this picture! Entering a relationship with someone who has children requires graduation to a whole new level of hard work and dedication. At this stage, you are building a relationship not only with one, but with two or three or more individuals. It’s not easy, but it can be done and it’s more than worth it!

Through my own step-parenting journey, I have accumulated some hard-learned lessons that I am happy to share:

  1. You are a parent! Don’t try to replace the biological parent. By assuming responsibilities and caring for your step-child’s needs, you are already a parent! There is greater richness for the child who is able to enjoy all existing parental figures in their lives, with all of their unique qualities.
  2. Communicate, communicate, communicate with your new partner! You need to be on or get on the same page with everything relating to caring for the child’s needs. Disagreeing is OK, but not in front of the child. Negotiate disagreements when both of you are calm and collected. The child needs to see and feel a respectful and collaborative front.
  3. Have fun with your step-child! Creating positive memories can be a great healer. Laughter and fun activities help create sociability and well-being for the entire family. Have some one on one bonding time too! Go for a walk or to a movie or play sports together. Creating your own special bond can be an invaluable source of comfort and emotional connectedness.
  4. Support and encourage the child’s relationship with the biological parent! Don’t compete with the biological parent. It will only place the child in the middle and risk alienating him/her from you.
  5. Don’t take it personally! Your step-child may show some anger or frustration, even lashing out at you. Divorce/separation and its impact is multifaceted; children haven’t yet mastered emotional control and may still mourn the breakdown of their family. Be compassionate and understanding.
  6. Don’t face-off with the biological parent! Even if the other parent is disrespectful or instigative, take the high road! Don’t get trapped into responding in a similar fashion. Remember, your focus is your new family and getting into confrontations, especially in front of children or new partner, only serves to destabilize your family’s emotional well-being.
  7. Don’t denigrate the biological parent in front of the child! When emotions are high and conflict escalates, lots of us are tempted to shout out loud all the negative things we may think about the other parent. Don’t do it in front of your step-child! No matter how you really feel, remember that the child is equally identifying with both biological parents. If you portray them in a negative light, your step-child may associate with and internalize those attributes. The goal is to raise or help in raising well-adjusted, confident and balanced individuals!
  8. Develop your own support network and take some time for yourself! Being in the parental role is not easy! At least once every month, try arranging something just for you: a day trip, an overnight at a sibling or friend’s house or even out of town. We often get caught up in the whirlwind of daily life, so much so that we lose our own rhythms. It is important to re-connect with yourself, re-align with your intentions and recharge. Everyone in your family has something to gain from it!

 

Laura Catone-Tarcea, AccFm
Family Mediator
President and Founder of Family Mediation and Resource Centre